For one, it’s vital to communicate with your best friend about your interests in the ex.This is essential in sustaining your friendship by keeping continuous trust and honesty between you two.It can damage a friendship and hurt those involved greatly, yet if done with honesty, clear communication, respect and understanding, you can get over that hurdle and pursue that someone who just might be perfect for you. The dating department is a complicated one and all these unwritten rules of dating an ex can sometimes get overwhelming when all you really follow is your heart.There are key factors to consider when pursuing an ex.
Think about how weird it would be had your best friend and the ex dated for ten years and you then moved in?You’re dating this awesome guy and you’re happy and in love. You spend a lot of time ranting about her to anyone who will listen, you don’t care if they don’t want to hear it. For some reason, your ex-BFF gets mad at YOU for talking about her so much. When you run into them anywhere, you want to run the other way.Then, for some reason or another, you guys break up. You try hanging out with new friends but mainly feel miserable and alone. You can’t understand why every other friend isn’t mad at her. But even though you’re furious with both of them, you still miss both of them so much and you hate it. As much as the whole “bros before hos” thing is a great concept, you’ve been dating for a while now; if you break it off, you’ll end up resenting him for making you do it I would guess. Eventually they broke up but I stayed friends with both of them. I was in the same position (almost) as you are in now; however it didn’t work out for us because it was too awkward.My advice is similar to Drew’s, just be honest with your best friend. That way both you and your girlfriend can be open about and enjoy your relationship without having to tip toe around.It’s not a fun experience to go through and if it’s happening to you, here’s a cyber hug.Also, here’s an explanation of what it REALLY feels like when your best friend dates your ex, in GIFs.At first she’s so supportive and nice and says all the right encouraging things. She swears once again that nothing is happening between them, but you don’t believe her. A few days later, you see her write on his Facebook wall and you’re so mad you don’t know what to do. Then, out of nowhere, she starts to get weird about it whenever you bring up his name. A few weeks later, you find out (somehow) that she’s been really friendly with your ex. I think you just need to sit him down and be straight with him.If I’m honest, I can’t imagine he’s going to be happy that you kept it secret for this long without telling him (maybe you try to gloss over that bit a little); but if you don’t tell him the truth, he’s going to find out, and then he won’t forgive you.