You’re dating this awesome guy and you’re happy and in love. You spend a lot of time ranting about her to anyone who will listen, you don’t care if they don’t want to hear it. For some reason, your ex-BFF gets mad at YOU for talking about her so much. When you run into them anywhere, you want to run the other way.Then, for some reason or another, you guys break up. You try hanging out with new friends but mainly feel miserable and alone. You can’t understand why every other friend isn’t mad at her. But even though you’re furious with both of them, you still miss both of them so much and you hate it. As much as the whole “bros before hos” thing is a great concept, you’ve been dating for a while now; if you break it off, you’ll end up resenting him for making you do it I would guess. Eventually they broke up but I stayed friends with both of them. I was in the same position (almost) as you are in now; however it didn’t work out for us because it was too awkward.
Despite the fact that basic girl code rules say we can’t date our best friend’s ex (unless we have her permission and even then, ), people always do it anyway.
When I was a sophomore in high school, my best friend started dating my ex behind m back (while I was on vacation! The situation was a total mess – we got into a huge fight, I lost my best friend forever and it set the stage for a ton of fun insecurities and trust issues.
If it’s never happened to you, let me first say you’re lucky and then let me say that it absolutely sucks.
The stronger the years of commitment between them, it’s guaranteed they were heavily invested with one another.
Secondly, you want to make sure the individual you’re pursuing is really worth the risk.