The service is free, run by a handful of cancer survivors, and aimed at providing a comfortable and fun environment for members to connect with others who can “relate.” As of March 2009, there are more than 1,000 members.I like the social networking aspect and it sounds like a great idea.My female patients report that the men they meet don’t look much like their profile photos—hair loss and 20 pounds of extra weight are often the reality of meeting in person. My patients ask me what they should do next—and having never registered a profile myself, I am not able to provide much more than common sense suggestions.
Amongst other things, treatment made me fat and bald,' says Rutterford.And then the women say: “Of course, if he wants to have sex, I’ll do it for his sake, but that really doesn’t interest me.” The men say: “So, you have to help me find a way to get an erection, because if that’s what these women want, then I’ll have to do that, even though it’s not that important to me.” See why I would like to start a matchmaking service?It seems that after cancer men and women who are not able to either have erections or who are not interested in sex, are willing to do it if a potential partner wants it—or if they assume that a potential partner wants it.But a number of my older patients are single, and their experiences of facing treatment and survivorship alone are profoundly moving.They often want to find someone with whom to share their life—and this is a real challenge.'As “brave and beautiful” as my cancer is deemed to have made me I am conscious of the lack of eligible men of my age looking for women of their own age to date.I am loathe to reduce the probabilities by throwing in a minor disfigurement.And number 3: You need to talk about expectations about a physical relationship sooner rather than later.Something that I have found interesting is that both men and women say that they are most interested in companionship. Most of my patients say that they want someone to travel with, to go out for dinner with, or to a movie or symphony concert.There are times when I am tempted to start a matchmaking service for the men and women, both gay and straight, who tell me how lonely they are and how they long for someone to share their life with. I often hear stories that describe how difficult it is to dip an older toe into the world of dating in 2015; the world is so different from the 1950s and 1960s when last they were single.That would not be ethical of course—but I bet I would be successful in pairing some of them up . Dating these days seems to start with an online membership to one of the many dating websites out there.