The Weinerts’ courting relationship is the kind of relationship that I want my daughter to have with her future husband. They never slept in the same house before they were married.
Their first kiss was at their wedding — and not because they weren’t attracted to each other. "It was easier not to go there at all than to go there a little bit and make a list of rules and regulations of what we were not going to do," she explained.
"It was a necessary burden to place on ourselves because it gave us so much freedom.
We focused on getting to know each other, having fun, doing lots of outdoor activities.
She recommends that women (this goes for men as well) begin a relationship with the end in mind: "It’s important to approach every guy that you’re interested in with the knowledge that this man is either someone’s future spouse or reserved for the priesthood. ’ — then God will take care of the timing and chemistry." Prendergast added, "Is what you’re doing now in your dating and sexual behavior getting you what your heart desires — or is it just a temporary release that leaves you feeling emptier and more alone?"Everyone gets confused about the two terms — ‘dating’ and ‘courtship.’ I always tell people that it is more about the definitions than it is about the terms." Before the advent of the car, couples got to know each other in the context of their family circles, otherwise known as courting.There was a measure of seriousness involved because couples were trying to discern marriage.We spent time getting to know each other and each other’s families.It was a very holistic perspective on who Peter was, because we got to know all of each other’s siblings." Weinert, who is the oldest of eight children, says that spending so much time with each other’s families was key to understanding what kind of person they each are: "You can’t pretend to be someone you’re not when you’re with your seven siblings." The Weinerts married in 2009 and are expecting their third child."With modern dating, couples date for the fun of it or for the emotional or physical draw of the relationship, but not for the purpose of discerning marriage," Weinert explained.Drawing on her own experience, Weinert can’t say enough about courtship.It is a special opportunity for the engaged to rediscover and deepen the faith received in baptism and nourished by their Christian upbringing.In this way, they come to recognize and freely accept their vocation to follow Christ and to serve the Kingdom of God in the married state." Dating vs.The conjugal love of man and woman thus stands under the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity" (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2363).And Pope John Paul II, in (The Role of the Christian Family in the Modern World), stated: "The very preparation for Christian marriage is itself a journey of faith.