But let’s consider the statement: The heart knows what the heart wants. Consider…As we mature, friendships become more selective.
In reality you are not “friends” with your thousands of Facebook friends.
If it’s a great match, it’s a great match.” Still, it’s best to proceed with caution.
Martenson advises “letting things dissipate a bit” before making your move.
However, as a relationship researcher, I recognize and sympathize that fate is not always in our favor.The reality is that it’s just too weird and uncomfortable for most people to want to deal with.” Therapist Karen Sherman agrees.“The only time it might be okay is if your friend has moved on to another relationship,” she says.During their relationship you found yourself developing feelings that went far beyond a physical attraction.You two just “clicked.” Fast-forward: Their relationship ended, she’s single, now what?Before viscerally responding “no” to breaking the guy/girl code, hear me out.Let’s set the stage: Your friend was dating an amazing girl.Others would say, “Absolutely not; the exes of friends are always off limits.” Still, others maintain that an ex is an ex, and once they’ve moved on, the subsequent choices he or she makes are no longer the interest of the former partner.I prefer to redistribute some relationship responsibility to fate, and what is meant to be will be.Do you pursue her or do you decide it’s not worth the risk of losing your friend?Some would argue that this decision comes down to whether you choose to listen to the devil on your right or the angel on your left.