Here were smart, funny, good-looking guys surrounded by single women who were to be asked out - and not a whole lot was happening. Smart people created nearly everything that I value - Beethoven's late string quartets, my HP laser printer, Feynman's lectures, suffer like I did? Set up the whole date: where, when, how, and in what outfit.
But it turns out that this slightly geeky breed of men might make the best boyfriends. He was probably bullied during high school so he'll be sympathetic when you vent about the office bitch..help you plot a plan to bring her down.
Slowly, I caught on that I knew about dating and women was wrong. You love computers, baseball cards, classical music, anime?
A few years later, right about when I was a pre-med advisor to Harvard undergraduates, I noticed that my friends and advisees were in a similar pickle.
They're great guys, but if you aren't accustomed to being around them, here are a few things you can do to ensure dating success:1. To belittle or make fun of his hobbies is to belittle Your judgement sends the message that he's not good enough the way he is.
Focus on his positive qualities, not his quirks When some women date nerds, they tend to focus on the "negative" side of his nerd-dom (long hours spent online gaming or his dressing up like Frodo Moreover, while nerd-dom is now mainstream (even cool), it wasn't always this way and many nerds grew up suffering at the hands of dumb jocks or b*tchy mean girls. Instead, give him free rein to express his quirkiness.