There have been many logistical issues and emotions to deal with as you have organized new living arrangements. They may worry that, if their parents can stop loving each other, then how hard would it be for either parent to stop loving them?Children have many feelings about their parents’ divorce. For children, there is often a strong desire for a reconciliation between you and their other parent.How I know this is, I’ve gotten countless emails from readers who are getting divorced and they write that a huge fear for them is that they will never find love again. Your relationship with your children’s other parent has ended. Perhaps you have felt some combination of hurt, anger, depression, relief, guilt, uncertainty, or hopefulness.• Children are often open to new adults in their lives.Some may be resistant to anyone who appears to be taking the place of a parent.However, in general, when someone is friendly, pays attention to them, and doesn’t try to be a disciplinarian, many children can form an attachment to a new partner as they spend more and more time with that person.Take some time to think through the needs of your children.
• Give your children time to adjust to their new situation.December 2017: Channing takes to Instagram to wish Jenna a happy birthday, along with a gorgeous photo of the birthday girl.“This creature is one more year beautiful,” he wrote.Sometimes parents try to take care of their own feelings of loss by dating shortly after beginning to live apart, but this is one of those times when considering the needs of your children should be a priority.It may take a year or more before your children have a chance to settle into and become comfortable with all the changes divorce has brought. Waiting to date gives you the opportunity to move through any feelings of loss, anger, or fear that can be helped by attention and time.• Don’t expose your children to people you are dating until you have a pretty good sense of the relationship’s potential. However, having your children develop relationships with people who may not be in your lives for long is not only emotionally difficult for them, but could also potentially impact how they develop their own relationships later in life.• Be honest with your children about when you are getting ready to start dating. Don’t give your children control over when you start to venture into that world, but in general, let them know your intentions and ask for their feelings about it.Absolutely nothing has changed about how much we love one another, but love is a beautiful adventure that is taking us on different paths for now.There are no secrets nor salacious events at the root of our decision — just two best-friends realizing it’s time to take some space and help each other live the most joyous, fulfilled lives as possible.Children are able to understand that adults need time with other adults, just like they need time with other children.• Reassure them that you will not bring someone into the family unless you feel comfortable that they can fit in.