I love the image…I can practically hear the release as a poof of air shoots out.
Almost every article or book I read mentioned practicing your cancer disclosure with a friend.
I already recruited my friend Lori, and although I’m pretty sure our practice session will end up in fits of laughter, because that seems to be how all our time is spent together, I know it will be helpful.
I look forward to finding out what the world of dating has in store for me.
I felt as though I would be lying if I didn’t mention this to him, because, after all, I’ve been dealing with leukemia in some form or another for the past five years.I, for one, am fully aware that I fall under the category of a “tell-all personality”, and I choose to embrace the thinking that “there will always be a risk of rejection, just as in any relationship between two individuals.But if a new relationship is strong enough to overcome such a difficult emotional hurdle as cancer, think how strong it will be when faced with so many other life challenges that lie ahead.Some align themselves with the thinking that the earlier you tell someone, the less it will hurt you if that person cannot picture themselves with a cancer survivor.Even those who follow this school of thought advise waiting several dates before exposing the less gleaming aspects of your dating resume.This perspective often allows them to experience the life they reclaim as something shinier and more beautiful than it was before cancer.They can become tremendous teachers for friends and family, and their value for love and life in their basic forms is a positive attribute in any romantic relationship.You are young, vivacious, and you are finally in the position to begin building a family.You meet someone who strikes your fancy, and you learn he/she had cancer.If your cancer turns out to be a deal breaker, hopefully you have not gotten too attached to him or her.” Still, I know from listening to others in my support group that some people wait much longer, sometimes months to bring up “the big C”, especially if a fair amount of time has passed since their treatment.I didn’t find anyone advocating this in my on-line research.