In both cases, this may be due to the allure of the possibilities that come with mixing ages, interests and backgrounds.Many women who have reached an above-average level of success in their careers grew up in a time when there weren’t that many women in positions of great leadership or authority.When you talk to her you feel like you're really being heard, and that what you have to say is interesting, even when you're not so sure that it is.She worked that magic on our dates, asking each of the guys what they do, where they live and what they studied during college, as well as the very important question, "Who here is Italian?" (only Tony, and only 1/8th—but she didn't hold that against him.)As we listened to the guys tell funny stories from their college days, I felt more like I had a front row seat to a sketch comedy than the reality that I was here on a blind Grouper date.As we started to like them more and more, my mom felt increasingly guilty that we were still lying to them about what was really going on here, and she made me spill the beans.
That woman is not the same Pam who came out with me on this Grouper date.But Brian and Mike ordered cocktails, and we started making small talk."So, how do you all know each other? Laura and Pam laughed."No, but seriously, you're not going to tell us?" Mike said."If you had to guess, what would you say?Until the last decade, there have been far less female CEOs or women in high-level managerial positions.What is also powerfully influential are the ever increasing and empowering lead roles created for women in movies, on TV, and through infinite social media forums.Our Date's Reactions —Brian (He was kidding.)Since our secret was now out in the open, I was dying to find out what they thought when they first saw us."Honestly," Tony said, "When we first got here I went straight to the bathroom and texted everyone saying ...I'm really into Pam."Pam, my mom, insists that he was kidding, but I'm not so sure. Honestly, I kind of assumed that after pulling a stunt like this, none of them would be interested in a second date.For many men, a woman in a position of power is a normal, familiar circumstance can help younger men be eager, open, willing and appreciative of the wisdom, the guidance and decisive nature that mature, successful women can offer.When you’re a successful woman who gravitates toward younger men, it may be because you find in them, a non-defensive willingness to absorb what you can provide.Finally, three guys showed up and were seated with us.I wish I had taken a reaction shot because the looks on their faces were really priceless.