), but selective element can be a major plus, since you know everyone else on the app went through the same thing. According to their website, find someone who is already on the app to invite you. According to Lisa Bahar, a California-based licensed marriage and family therapist, super-specific apps are great for older crowds with firmer routines in their daily lives.If you know what you’re looking for, which by now you likely do, there’s no reason to waste time. Bumble is hugely popular, but the options for the over-40 crowd are fewer than in other age groups.Kelley Kitley, a Chicago-based psychotherapist who deals with relationships, says she would recommend Match above other apps because “you pay for the service, so it’s a higher caliber of people who might be more committed to the dating process.People also have to put the time into creating a full profile, as opposed to ‘the swipe apps,’ which don’t give you a sense of personality or interests but are based solely on looks.” Cost: Memberships start at .99/month. You might know about OKC already, and for some it could be a blast from the past (hello 2012! The app is super easy to use, making it perfect for those who don’t want to spend a lot of time trying to figure out the ins and outs of a complicated interface.
But the downside is that not everyone who wants to be on the app gets the chance to be. If you’re the kind of person who sees people you’d like to ask out but never actually does it, Happn could be a great option for you. The idea is that if you’ve crossed paths with someone during your regular day-to-day life, long-distance dating—which is a major inconvenience to someone who has already established their life and career—is removed from the equation. Like other services on this list, Plentyof Fish has been around for a while, which means it has a lots and lots of people who use it.
On the one hand, this is a little bit obnoxious, but on the other, you know that anytime a conversation is started, there’s true interest there. The League specifically blocks anyone you’re friends with on Facebook or Linked In from seeing your profile.
(If you’re in your 40s, you don’t need the hassle of having your friends or coworkers finding your profile on a dating app.) The League also has networking events, making it easier to meet people offline. It’s kinda-sorta invite only, and it’s only available in NYC, Los Angeles, and San Francisco.
If you find yourself on the market in your 40s, wading into the app-dating world can feel daunting.
There are literally hundreds of apps to choose from, and if you’re a busy guy looking for something meaningful, scrolling through an endless stream of music-festival selfies probably isn’t the best use of your time.