So, no matter what, no matter how much your man loves you, he will put his kid first. Even if he cannot stand his ex, she’s still going to be in his and your life. You’ll see photos hanging of them on his walls, he’ll be making phone calls to her—that’s normal. So, they will be in communication with each other regarding their child.Honestly, if you’re reading this and thinking, “Well, he always puts me first over his kids,” then you should stop dating him. Again, if you have a jealous streak in you, lose it.If you really like a guy, here’s what you need to know, to help you navigate the waters of dating a man with kids.Dating a man with kids A past means he comes with baggage.The minute you have children involved, your plans never completely turn out as planned. If you wanted to go to the movies on Friday night, but the kids unexpectedly come over, well, scrap that movie date.What I’m trying to say is, you’ll need to compromise and accept whatever happens, just go with the flow. [Read: How to be the best girlfriend: 25 ways to leave him addicted] #8 You won’t be sharing “firsts.” He’s a parent which means he’s gone through a lot of “firsts”. So for you, much of this will be completely new but for him, he’s been-there-done-that.I don’t want to call children baggage, but let’s face it, you’re not looking at him telling you he has a kid with pleasant surprise.
Don’t force anything, kids are highly emotionally and know when you’re being insincere.You’ll need to be cordial and come to accept their relationship.Also, you need to show his ex that you’re responsible, respectful, and invested in taking on a parenting role.Not saying he won’t be excited if he was to marry you or have a child with you.All I’m saying is he’s already had this milestone in his life.I know you don’t want to believe it, but this guy that you’re interested in, he had a life before you.Including past relationships and sometimes that includes children.It’s an adjustment for not only you, but them as well.They may be temperamental and opinionated around you because they’re hurt.You’re going to have to accept this as being a part of a team.So, get over your jealous emotions and get involved in your share of the team work. If he wants to introduce you to his kids after the second date, say no.