Please encourage your daughter to be involved with activities she enjoys with people she knows.
Keeping your policies consistent will help, but probably will not be easy.
The young man who took her was very respectful, and they had a good time.
While there, however, she met another boy--a graduating senior.
Prior to this year, she has gotten excellent grades and aside from the normal middle school behavior issues, she has not been a problem.Around 10pm, my husband went out to let them know that they needed to wrap it up, and found our d/d in an embrace with the aforementioned boy.Of important note: we had never officially met him.My daughter did not introduce him, nor did he introduce himself.We opted to avoid embarrassing her at the time, but immediately initiated a conversation with our daughter about this young man once all of the kids were gone.We told him that we were sure that he was a fine person, but that this was not a good situation. I have no experience with teens, and lately every day is a struggle.I am genuinely concerned about my d/d's lack of "feeling" in response to this particular situation.We do not yet allow her to "date", but we do allow her to go places with groups of friends such as to the movies and to community or school events.She was invited to prom this year, and after weighing all of the information, we decided to let her go.He had parked at a neighbor's house so that we couldn't see his car. Yet, every time we give her some leeway, she consistently makes the wrong choices.We had a conversation with the young man and explained our position. We also spoke to our d/d--who had absolutely no reaction. We have discussed everything openly as a family, and d/h and I ensure that our rules are clear, and the consequences are equally so.