As a woman, your takeaway is that while you may get frustrated at the lack of quality responses, put yourself in a man’s shoes.He has no idea what to write in his first email to you, and he’s competing with hundreds of men for your attention. However, it’s always good to back up hypotheses with facts, and that’s what Jon Millward did with this experiment, posted on his eponymous blog.“The expanded horizons offered by online dating don’t equal unrestricted access to a ready and waiting list of beautiful people.'I'd much rather see a picture of a nice smiling guy on a night out with friends or on holiday than one who has clearly spent too much time in front of a mirror in his bedroom.Have some selfie respect.'The new research by dating site Zoosk comes to the conclusion that while honesty really is the best policy for men, it's not such a good idea for women to talk about exes and children.Every man and woman online still has criteria that must be met by people who want to date him or her, and every guy and girl is still in direct competition with every other person of their gender…Whereas before a man just needed to be the best looking guy at work to get a date with a colleague, now he needed to be in the top 10% of all men to get a date with one of the women in his city.” This is the double-edged sword of online dating.
• It took 2 months, 13 days for the most popular woman’s inbox to fill up.For all the talk about “The End of Men” and how gender roles have been obliterated and women can write to men first, blahblahblah, here’s what ACTUALLY happened after four months: • The women as a group received over 20 times more messages than the men.• The two most attractive women received 83% of all messages.Those who mention the same words in their opening message get 35 per cent fewer replies.'Spelling mistakes I can live with, but if you approach online dating with text speak the only way you're getting a reply is if you've got limited wifi because you’re volunteering in rural Africa, or Joe Manganiello. You're welcome.'Women prefer outdoors shots of men because they're likely to be taken by a friend (which shows that he's social and popular), and probably show him doing something active and rugged (which we also like).At match.com, we've found that people simply don't have time to study a photograph to work out which one is you!But also don't comment on something too obvious, like 'The picture from New York looks nice. 'You have stellar dress sense' rather than 'You're so beautiful'.Do women have it a lot easier than men, and do hot people in general have it the easiest? Millward created 10 fake OKCupid profiles with similar sounding usernames, with the same written profile, personal stats, level of education, etc. Each account had a different photo of a man or woman of varying attractiveness.I have dedicated an entire volume of my bestselling audio series, Finding the One Online to how to write emails just like this.Online dating may be a jungle, but it’s a jungle with a LOT of single people, so it’s best to learn how to master the process.It's also far less intimate and attractive to use a group shot - always remember that the person viewing your profile will be trying to imagine themselves with you. It's the online equivalent of bringing your mates along on a first date.Because people viewing your profile will be hoping to get a sense of your lifestyle - and how they can fit into it.