Consider when a friend invites you to a trivia night and you meet one of their other friends there and hit it off, or when you go to a friend’s birthday party and bump into someone new.
Unfortunately, our friends typically share similar social networks as us, so it’s a bit harder for them to introduce us to our existing social networks.
I mentioned my predicament to Jessica, and she excitedly revealed that her good friend had just moved to the city I was visiting.
She quickly connected us via Facebook, where her friend and I immediately hit it off and subsequently spent the whole weekend together.
Sex and romance can definitely still happen in the context of friendship-first dating, but they are never assumed or expected, and the top priority is always to understand and validate someone’s existing preferences and goals rather than imposing your own goals and expectations upon them.
Meeting someone to participate in an activity you mutually enjoy sets you up for a successful friendship, which can either convert into a relationship later, or lead to that person referring you to one of their friends to date.
It’s why wing[wo]men are so amazing to have around.
It’s why people are far more likely to connect with you on dating apps when you have friends in common. We need to remember that friendship is never a means to an end.
Using dating sites to find love is inefficient and prone to failure.
We typically set the stakes too high, and centuries worth of societal tropes and expectations can cripple the authenticity of our interactions.