Would you like help figuring out how to make a trial separation work for you and your partner? Some couples can separate and still live in the same house.
It might seem to make sense because of finances or children.
With an informal separation, there is no involvement of attorneys or the court and, when done with respect and trust, each works with the other for everyone’s best interest. A trial separation means that there is a desire and a willingness on the part of husband and wife NOT to take the drastic road to divorce.If the goal is to find out if they can break patterns and develop a healthy relationship and/or fall back in love, then dating others is too much of a distraction.The single life can seem alluring and interesting and commitments become less important.Some couples want to meet with a therapist to learn new skills and understand what they need to do to change their patterns.This is a good thing to do whether or not the marriage works.The positive factors involve legal representation and an agreement that is legal and “fair”.The biggest drawback to a legal separation is that it is more likely to lead toward divorce as attorneys become involved in the emotional pull of dividing up their lives and their property. Together they decide on some of the major components for healthy distancing. Some agree that financial arrangements remain the same as they were during the marriage while others come up with a specific formula for bills/child support, etc.There is a calculator that can give a fairly simple and concrete estimate about how that can be determined.It is far better when that is said out loud rather than when it is kept secret.In instances where one partner really wants to date others while the other partner does not, the agreement to allow dating is most probably the only decision to make. Click here to be taken to our online counseling enrollment page and learn how we can work together.