So here are some of the most obvious online dating "flags" I suggest you use to steer clear of players and time-wasters: 1. Beware if he sends you a "wink" or a "smile" instead of a properly written e-mail.I guarantee that the man who will ultimately want to marry you will not send you a "wink." Please don't be fooled into thinking he's "shy" or just intimidated by your fabulousness.However, a word of warning to the wise, spotting a player isn’t an exact science so don’t cry wolf before you are certain.Before we launch into the signs you need to look for to determine whether or not he is a player, we should first define exactly what a player is.Maybe it's time to raise your standards, to expect better, to deserve more. This is because they leave a trail that you can pick up on and this trail will help improve your chances of spotting him for what he really is.A man can e-mail you his photo directly, but it's still a red flag if he's hiding it on his profile.
Start imagining yourself as your favorite, sexiest, most desirable celebrity -- Angelina, Beyonce, Gisele, etc.
-- except the MOST IMPORTANT ONE: "Can I have your number?
" In , authors Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein say that if a man hasn't asked for your number is four e-mails then he's a "Next!
Winks demonstrate laziness and lack of specific, intense interest in you that will invariably show up later in letdowns, small and large.
Treat online winks like whistles you might elicit on a busy city street.