All in all, I encourage women with herpes to keep an open mind as to who would and wouldn’t be open to dating them.Dating within the herpes community is a great first step, but I encourage women to get out there in the open pool if things don’t work out in the “small pool”. Transmitting Herpes To A Partner: For many women, their greatest fear is transmitting the virus to an uninfected partner.The good news is that once a woman discovers she has herpes, she can take the proper precautions to greatly decrease the risk of transmission to her partner.If a woman with herpes is dating within the herpes community, it is important that she understands the transmission of herpes.The Talk: The most glaringly obvious benefit is that dating on a positive singles site can help to lessen the fear of having The Talk and disclosing your herpes status.Where so many women fall short is that they skip ever having “The Talk” with their new prospective positive partners, especially if both have herpes.
In this case, the boyfriend was extremely loving and compassionate towards his girlfriend, but the trust he had in her was ruined by her withholding her status and exposing him.They assume that since they both have herpes, that there is no reason to discuss their past medical history.STD’s come in all different forms, and while HSV is the 2nd most common STD, it is not the ONLY ONE.I coach women to really pay attention as to whether or not their relationships are only based on the fact that both partners find sanctuary in the fact that they both are infected.If so, this is a fateful disaster waiting to happen.I wanted to put my best foot forward and not limit myself to only date men with herpes.Looking back, this was a good choice for me because I met my husband through a mutual friend.Dating within the community can often help to build a woman’s self confidence as she gets used to dating with herpes. Honesty: I recently conversed with a young woman with herpes that had just broken up with her boyfriend.They had been dating for some time and things were really going well.Even after talking to his friend with herpes, he just couldn’t get over the betrayal, so he broke things off. The moral of this story is that if you are a woman dating with herpes, you MUST tell your partner before it’s too late.Imagine how he or she would feel if they contracted genital herpes from you and you never disclosed your status!