“I thought dating was over once you find your life partner, but that’s not the case.
You go to these playgrounds and play dates looking for moms you can spend your time with—someone who’s going through the same hellish-but-wonderful time as you are—but there’s embarrassment and anxiety about reaching out and trying to connect with other moms,” said Hieatt.
” Hillary Frank (mother of Sasha, four and a half) said to her friend, Natalie Chitwood (Freddy, five; Wynn, two), as they unloaded goody bags containing sweet-potato-and-pumpkin baby food. You need support.” She and Chitwood met four years ago, at mommy-and-me yoga. Tonight, she was hoping to help her fellow-moms find the same thing. Aretha Franklin’s “Baby I Love You” blasted, and new mothers from such places as East Harlem and Williamsburg wandered in and scribbled nametags.
Frank, the host of the WNYC parenting podcast “The Longest Shortest Time,” was worried that the weather might keep women from leaving their plastic-toy-strewn homes for the Bell House, a club where she was holding her first live event, “Speed Dating for Mom Friends.” The twenty-five-dollar admission included a cocktail, snacks, and plenty of promising new adult playdates. “I’d like to meet someone from the senior set,” Allison B.
After mulling over how to make real connections with like-minded moms, the idea struck her to begin holding mommy speed dating events.
At her first event a few months ago, Hieatt met another local mom, Brandy Griffin.
I was super self-conscious of it but also didn’t want to be the lady in the bathroom fixing her makeup.
“When you’re looking for a real mom friend, you’re looking for a rare combination of things—someone who’s got a compatible personality to yours and someone who will support your parenting choices.But here’s a solution that some moms are trying, a blast from their relationship past: They’re dating.More specifically, they are speed-dating, mommy style, in an attempt to find a new MFF (Mom Friend Forever).“The moms will be seated at tables and given 4 to 5 minutes to talk to each partner before moving on to the next.I will give them suggestions of what to ask each other a couple of times during the event—'What’s the craziest thing you’ve done due to sleep deprivation?”“How many times a day do you want to throw your kid out the window? (Julian, three years) asked a young woman who was sipping water. Being a new mom can be lonely and isolating, especially when you don’t have other like-minded moms to share your frustrations with.Mom speed dating events are popping up all over the country—from the busy streets of New York City to the small towns of Texas.Robin Hieatt, a mom-of-two from Manor, Texas, says she started Moms Matched a few months ago after growing tired of awkward attempts at connecting with other moms at play dates and parks.“As moms, our plates are so full that we need two plates.Finding a way to meet like-minded people and decide if we want to invest time going deeper with them…I love the idea so much,” she said.