But again, as one ages and learns to trust her inner-voice, she quickly figures out what will work for her and what won’t.I know women who can have a fifteen-minute bar conversation with a guy and determine whether said guy is datable and sex-able. Again, when to sex varies from woman to woman depending on a slew of criteria, but what is constant is the exhausting thought process that many women face attempting to determine whether or not to they should lay it down- both literally and figuratively.Over wine the other day, though, a group of sister-friends and I had a chit-chat about one segment of the book that we felt worth exploring: the three-month rule.Harvey has notoriously (or victoriously, depending on who you ask) stated that women should wait at least three months before sleeping with a new partner.That’s right, I said it—it’s not gonna happen, no way, no how.Because a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love.” ― Steve Harvey “I'm sure that if woman laid out the rules- requirements- early on, and let her intended know that he could either rise up to those requirements, or just move on.A directive like that signals to a man that you are not a plaything-someone to be used and discarded.It tells him that what you have- your benefits- are special, and that you need time to get to know him and his ways to decide if he DESERVES them.
And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough.
The first step, I think, is to get over the fear of losing a man by confronting him. The most successful people in this world recognize that taking chances to get what they want is much more productive than sitting around being too scared to take a shot.
The same philosophy can be applied to dating: if putting your requirements on the table means you risk him walking away, it's a risk you have to take.
That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance.
” ― Steve Harvey, “All I'm telling you to do is to be smart about it.