Instead they have to wait and see if she approaches them or seems interested.This naturally leads to a ton of over-analysis and mild obsession as they look for signs that things will work out with the target of their affection.Naturally they can also be shy about other steps further along in the dating process.They're likely going to feel anxious about those first few kisses, or may be really inhibited, self-conscious, and insecure when they start to fool around with someone.If a woman isn't considered that physically attractive, her shyness will be reinterpreted as well, but this time in light of a different of unflattering stereotypes ("She's not talking because she's weird and anti-social and mad at the world") This isn't so much a practical issue as an attitude that can make a shy woman feel their concerns are dismissed or misunderstood.
Attractive shy women face this bias the most, since people sometimes have trouble conceiving that a physically good looking person could have any problems with their confidence.I'm writing this article as a follow up to the one I did on what's going on in the mind of guys who are shy and inexperienced with women. Some said that they were shy with men and several of the points in it applied to their own situation.Others pointed out how shy women have their own struggles as well.Keeping with the nature of shyness, once a woman has finished the above-mentioned type of nervous conversation with a guy, she'll probably start beating up on herself. He came and talked to me and I barely said anything back.Now he'll think I'm not interested." or "I turned bright red like I always do and made absolutely sense when I opened my mouth to talk to him." or "I'll never meet anyone being shy like this."They looked at me in class for a tenth of a second today! " The points above are general shyness related obstacles that apply to both sexes in much the same way." (Cue melodramatic fantasies about getting married to them) "On Facebook they posted a You Tube video from a band I don't like. Below are the problems that shy women alone have to deal with: I put this one first to get it out of the way, since I think most people know about this concept.I get too terrified and shut down when a guy I like is around." They may also have more generally negative opinions of themselves, like that they're boring, or that no one will like them because of how quiet and awkward they are, or that they're not very good looking.Before we've had firsthand experience with the dating world women, and men, tend to have a naive, overly romantic view of what relationships and sex are like.They might give someone their number, but be too scared to answer his text when he contacts them.Or they may really want to date someone, but wimp out and say no when they're asked out.