Although the negative impact of divorce upon children is real, their worries may also be projections of fears for themselves.
This is compounded if they suffered from their parents’ divorce.
They may people-please or sacrifice their needs, interests, and friends, and then build resentments toward their partner.
The way out may not require leaving the relationship. Develop a support system and become more independent and assertive.
Autonomy doesn’t mean you don’t need others, but in fact allows you to experience healthy dependence on others without the fear of suffocation.
Examples of psychological autonomy include: Often, it’s this lack of autonomy that makes people unhappy in relationships or unable to commit. They’re afraid of even more dependence – of losing themselves completely.
Homemakers fear being self-supporting or single moms, and breadwinners dread paying support and seeing their assets divided.
Often spouses fear feeling shamed of leaving a “failed” marriage.
The combined effect of this adds to fears of loneliness and isolation people that they envisage being on their own.(We hear that’s really good.) Inevitably, the one available outlet will be located in the most inconvenient location possible.This portable power strip gives you enough outlets to charge all your devices and has a 5-foot cord so you can reach it from wherever you’re sitting.They believe broken promises and hope things will improve . Autonomy implies being an emotionally secure, separate, and independent person.The lack of autonomy not only makes separation difficult, it naturally also makes people more dependent upon their partner.Often in longer relationships, spouses don’t develop individual activities or support networks other than their mate.In the past, an extended family used to serve that function.One man was too afraid and guilt-ridden to leave his ill wife (11 years his senior).His ambivalence made him so distressed, he died before she did!Denial of problems, including addiction, is another reason why people can get stuck in a relationship.They may rationalized, minimize, or excuse their partner’s behavior and cling to hope or occasional “good times” or expressions of love. “if only” often, denying their own pain, which might motivate them to get help and change.