Now, think back to when you were dating somebody that you were totally crazy about. Did you ever think “I really want to experience this kissing with other people?” Does that sentiment even come close to what you feel when you think back on those memories? More likely, you could picture yourself kissing that person and only that person for the rest of your life, if it hadn’t all gone to hell (assuming you broke up).The same people who say “you’re going to want to experience sex with lots of people” are also the ones who will say that “kissing can be as intimate as sex,” so this kissing example holds with their logic, IMHO.
It will become a familiar situation: Some friend/acquaintance, biased by their own decisions, will try to poke holes in your decision to wait, and you’ll either hear them out, smile and nod, then dismiss the conversation, or you’ll decide to engage them and argue your case.
They argue that you’re going to have this deep, nagging pull towards sexual variety that will corrode your current relationship, unless you exorcise that demon earlier in life through lots of pre-marital sexual experiences. Here’s an example: Let’s say you’ve been married for ten years.
One day, while out for coffee by yourself, a devastatingly attractive stranger starts flirting with you. According to what I’ve studied of Relationship Science (Psychology applied to relationships), the answer to this question depends on how satisfied you are with your marriage.
Doesn’t that totally contradict the whole abstinence thing?!
” Or maybe they’ll try to guilt you: “I’ve had sex. ” Whatever the argument, most all of them are pretty hollow .