Almost everyone I met in Europe in their mid 20s to 30s had had one, maybe two, very long term partnerships, and perhaps one casual, one night stand. It's really a method, and a pretty intelligent one at that, to get to know someone before you bond physically with another person.Not that I have an issue with people who want to have casual sex, and are consciously choosing it as a way to release sexual energy and truly connect.One of my biggest takeaways while exploring Western Europe for six months was a conversation I had with an Austrian couple. What struck me the most was that there isn't a word in many languages for what North Americans call "dating", and that, in fact, few cultures around the world actually "date". And how to other people get to know one another before committing, having casual sex, or something else?Within a few minutes of meeting in an Irish pub, the lady of the couple asked, "So, is dating a construct of Hollywood? These were the most pressing questions my friends back home wanted to know, so I went out in discovery of answers.You're just bumping the naughty bits, and that's why we North Americans have so many, varied terms for what is essentially a no strings attached sexual relationship. So let's call dating what it really is: a way to get to know a complete stranger to see if they're a possible romantic partner for the long haul.There's a ridiculous amount of social pressure in North America to have sex, for men to have "more" partners, and for women to detach emotionally and make it "okay". It isn't an excuse to 'test the merchandise', or 'see how I feel in six months', or even, 'give him a taste'."We kind of ran into each other a couple of weeks ago, like walking in Venice.
People jump to conclusions."Jonas explained their accidental outing.The act of getting to know one another is called dating.Now, there's hooking up, friends with benefits, casual dating, and all manner of other things. There's no courtship, there's zero determining if you're compatible romantically or long term.In France however, there's no such thing as a dating columnist.I've been a semi-fluent French speaker since my youth, yet trying to share what I did perplexed most French, Belgian and Swiss folks I encountered. My male friends scoffed, my female friends swooned."She's like, 'He's hot, but I would never even go there because he has a girlfriend, so you have to be respectful.""She's dope," Jonas said. known by his stage name Sisqó (stylized as Sis Qó), is an American R&B singer, songwriter, record producer, dancer and actor. "I learned a lot while in Ireland (and France, Belgium) about romance and relationships, and you can read all about my adventures elsewhere (see: What Does Shifting Mean in Irish Slang, and Dating in Ireland).First, I had to come up with a way to describe what I do for a living.Over his career as a recording artist, both with and without Dru Hill, Sisqó's hairstyles have included a bleached blond Caesar, a platinum Caesar (colored with silver spray paint), blond cornrows, a neon-red dyed Caesar, and a blond Mohawk.In 2016, Sisqo opened a store on the world-renowned Rodeo Drive of Los Angeles called The Thong Bong.